At some point in our lives we have to let some people go. Whether that be through them passing or cutting them out of your life, or just simply saying no thanks and moving on.
It’s inevitable that we lose people that we once cared so deeply for over the course of our time on earth. I’m not just talking about partners or lovers. I’m talking about friends that become toxic to you, or family members that have done wrong or done you wrong. I suppose the question is, at what point do you make that decision?
I know people who are one strike and you’re out. You have the complete opposites that will give chance after chance in the hope something will change.
There is that saying – The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting different results. Then I might be insane! I have walked away from people in my life that I felt were toxic, but I waited and waited and tried and tried in the hope things will change, but they didn’t and I was forced to realise that this is not healthy and move on.
I’ve found it takes a lot of strength to walk away from something that is familiar and almost safe. You are walking into the unknown and as I said in a previous blog, that is the scariest thing ever!
At some point you have to put yourself first and ask yourself, does this relationship in my life make me happy? Is it one sided? Am I chasing something that isn’t there? Am I living on hope? If you answer yes to four or more of the above… CUT.THE.CORD.
Everyone has different limits to what they can put up with, but ask yourself why are you “putting up” with anything? Shouldn’t the people in your life want to be there? Shouldn’t they want to make your life easy? I guess in a way this blog is a pep talk to myself. There are times when I should walk away, but I physically can’t. Because the fear of not having that person around paralyses me so much that I can’t breathe. Call me soft if you will, but like I said everyone has different limits.
It all goes back to knowing your self worth and only you can determine what you feel you deserve. Me? I’m still figuring that out.
People grow and change over the years. It’s inevitable that someone you would share all your secrets with will eventually become a complete stranger to you. Sad, but true.
I suppose what I’m saying is, it’s ok to have a clear out once in a while. Detox from the bad in your life, stick with the good. It doesn’t make you a selfish person to not want negativity in your life, just because that person has been there forever, it means you value your time and yourself. Now if someone could show me how!
I gotta go……………….gotta get the scissors